Does Penis Size Really Matter? How Much?

I love being the “open-minded” girlfriend in the group. I own an online sex shop, and I’ve travelled the world. So, naturally, I am the sounding board for all things relationship, sex or “taboo” related. It affords me the opportunity to listen to all the comments, complaints and secrets you wouldn’t usually hear. One of the most frequent topics of discussion is the size issue; more importantly, the “does size matter” conversation. And more often than not, as one of my friends puts it “you know what, a big d—k isn’t all it’s cracked up to be”. 

Unsurprisingly, she’s spot on. I’ve had my fair share of relationships, and I made it my mission early on in life (in my more promiscuous days) to be sure that my men were long and strong. But, surprisingly enough, the most satisfying sexual partner I ever had was slightly below average-sized. Believe that. 

To be fair, he was sexually adventurous, open-minded and caring, which undoubtedly played a role in our relationship. But if I have to judge the sex on his size alone, he went a long way to dispel the “big member myth”. In plain English, he gave me the most orgasms, including vaginal orgasms out of all my previous partners, and he was below average in size. 

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If you just read that and thought “Pfft, girl please” then this article is just what you need and was written with you in mind. 

Because I have confirmation from many sources from the woman in my life (and then some) that confirm that although it’s popular to say a man needs to be big to satisfy you sexually truly, honestly he doesn’t need to be. 

What is considered big, and who told you you need a big d—k?   

In our previous articles, we mentioned that on average, 75% of women struggle to reach vaginal orgasms (orgasms originating strictly from vaginal penetration). So, if you don’t climax from penetration alone, why do you need a big member, to begin with? 

Fact: A woman’s most intense vaginal nerve endings are within the first five to seven centimetres of the vagina. According to studies around the world, less than 20 per cent of men are larger than fifteen centimetres in length when erect. And for the gents who are eighteen centimetres or more? Only a staggering three per cent of men around the world fall into that category. 

So, next time you hear a man bragging about what he’s packing, call his bluff or silently think to yourself “I seriously doubt it”. Ask yourself if he actually measured to know what his size is, and how does he know what is considered big or not?

Why I mention this is just as men can think they are “huge” without knowing if it’s honestly the case, a woman can assume her partner is huge, or that he should be. But you could be way off. Please don’t take him into the shower with a plastic ruler or measuring tape, that’s not what I’m suggesting.

The point here is, maybe you’ve been with a few thirteens, and now you’re with a barely fifteen, and your mind is blown, when really it’s still just a fifteen? Now that you know that anything from five to seven centimetres could technically get the job done, what’s the deal with a big penis anyway? Especially if internal orgasms aren’t your thing, to begin with. 

I have a friend; I’ll call her Sally, who is married to a husband with a massive member. What she told me might surprise you: 

“I’ve been with big and small penises. One of my boyfriends was abnormally small, and my husband is the biggest I’ve ever had (didn’t marry him because of it). My smaller boyfriend was way more satisfying in bed than any bigger guy I’ve been with.

The simple reason is that guys that are bigger think they don’t have to work for it. They can ‘hammer it out of you’, and you’ll be satisfied. But the smaller guy knew he had to work for it. The sex was sensual, and the oral was amazing. His penis wasn’t all he brought to the table, and he knew he had to use all the tools in his toolbox. I’ll tell you it’s a way more satisfying experience. Plus, if you’ve ever been with a huge man, you’ll know it takes a long time to adjust to the size, like internally. A lot of us are just conditioned to think that a big penis is what we need when, at the end of the day, you end up sore with a hurt back and unsatisfied to boot.”

Sally is pretty sassy, so I had a chuckle when she told me this story, but she makes a good point, and she’s not alone. It’s a known fact that men are more concerned about size than women. But women don’t need a big penis to be sexually satisfied, point. 

What you should ask yourself is, what do you need, or even require to enjoy sex with a man? Is oral sex your thing? Foreplay or role-playing? Romance? What do you really desire? Then consider if you need a HUGE man to fulfil your needs.

The bottom line is simple—if size truly matters to you, I get it. But, don’t make it such a big thing in your mind that you program yourself to think that if the man isn’t huge you won’t be pleased. Because physiologically it’s not true. Just like women don’t need big breasts or a huge clitoris to satisfy a man sexually, the same applies to men and penis size. What you hear about size is most certainly a myth, don’t rob yourself of good sex because of a preconceived idea or mindset.  

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